Some events in our community life mark a life transition. These we keep separate from other past events, as they mark us and, in part, make us who we are and will be. Births, deaths, weddings, funerals, graduations, divorces, birthdays, you name it. People participate consciously and unconsciously in rituals to mark their big shifts. Community is, at least in part, defined by who participates and then remembers and tells the stories.